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Parenting
PARENTING TIPS
Parent Education should reach out to families before problems begin. It should provide parents with community support, offer an understanding of developmental stages in children, and choices in positive parenting skills.
CHARACTERISTICS OF EFFECTIVE PARENT EDUCATION
· Create opportunities for parents to interact with other parents.
· Help and encourage parents to find solutions to their own problems.
· Identify family strengths and utilize them.
· Places a strong emphasis on making behavioral changes.
· To identify your own strengths as a parent.
· To understand how styles of parenting are carried from one generation to another.
PARENTING TIPS
I. Maintaining
Trust:
1. Communicating in a mutually satisfying way
2. Setting reasonable limits for the child
3. Being present for the child
4. Maintaining love during times of conflict
5. Touching (warmth and affection)
6. Avoiding careless words and actions
7. Creating rituals and traditions in the home and family
II. Maintaining Self-Esteem in Children:
1. Knowing
the child for who he or she is,
2. Respecting the child as a unique individual with goals, ideas,
and dreams of his or her own,
3. Differentiating the child's needs and feelings from the parent's
and acknowledging and supporting the child as a separate person,
4. Enabling the child to learn what he or she offer the world
and how his or her ideas have worth,
5. Acknowledging the child's ideas as worthy of our attention,
6. Listening and respecting the child's goals, decisions, and
dreams, and
7. Empathizing with the child's feelings an emotions.
III. Maintaining Effective Discipline Techniques:
1. Respond
cognitively to children's behavior, rather than react emotionally.
2. Involve children in establishing rules and consequences. (Children
are less likely to break rules that they have helped to establish.)
3. Set clear boundaries for children and help them understand
the rationale behind each. (Sometimes it is okay to simply say
"no," however.)
4. Establish reasonable expectations for children's behaviors.
5. Acknowledge feelings.
6. Be consistent.
Sampling of Ineffective Techniques:
1. Nagging,
Lecturing, Talking Too Much: Trains the child to tune us out;
creates anger
2. Bribing: Discourages motivation and teaches the child that
he should be rewarded for all that he does
3. Comparing Children: Teaches the child that he is not as good
as someone else; creates resentment
4. Threatening: If threats are not realistic or not carried out,
this teaches the child that we don't really mean what we say
5. Harsh Physical Punishment: This teaches to lash out at others
when he is upset or angry. This form of discipline destroys self-esteem,
and creates a parent/child relationship of fear, hostility, and
resentment.
The parenting program at J.P. Cowen is held the first Tuesday of every month. Lori Ortega is a trained facilitator and she is accompanied by Jay Morris.
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